Among unmarried couples, men and women tend to initiate breakups fairly evenly — but that changes after marriage. Around 70% of divorces are initiated by women.
Why the disparity? There are a few reasons why women are more likely to file for divorce than men.
Relationship quality may suffer after a marriage begins
The author of a study regarding the prevalence of women initiating divorce notes that he thinks that marriage, as an institution, hasn’t caught up with gender equality. This can lead to the degradation of a couple’s relationship once their vows are said.
Unfortunately for the women in these marriages, their male partners tend to fall into old-fashioned patterns that put more pressure on women to conform to gender-related expectations. That leaves women picking up the bulk of the housework and childcare activities, on top of having their own jobs and careers. When wives express their dissatisfaction with the marriage, men are inclined to assume that the situation is “okay” until there is a breaking point.
Basically, in unmarried relationships, both men and women are seeking a situation in which they feel comfortable and will leave if they don’t. Men may be “trying harder” in unmarried relationships to keep their partners happy — and they may assume that marriage somehow changes the rules. They may relax a bit too much into the security of their marital vows and assume that they can weather any storms.
There’s no reason to continue an unhappy, unfulfilling relationship
If you’re considering a divorce, you should learn a bit about the process and what options you have. Your divorce attorney can help you to determine this based on the circumstances of your situation. Try to do this as early in the process as possible so you can take the time to think logically about your direction.