If you have been dealing with a narcissistic spouse, you may have finally reached your limit. To divorce may come as a reasonable, and welcome, relief from going through the problems you have with your spouse.
Keep in mind that divorcing a narcissistic wife can be challenging. Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be a constant roller coaster of ups and downs, and they may blame you for everything. They may say you’re never right or that you always cause problems. They might even accuse you of being the narcissist.
If you want to divorce your narcissistic wife, then you should know what to expect. There are a few behaviors and traits that you may recognize right away and will need to deal with. Here are a few that may arise.
- Projection will become a focus
To start with, expect your spouse to project their issues onto you. If you call them a narcissist, expect that argument to devolve into name-calling, blame-gaming and gas-lighting. They will project their insecurity or low self-esteem onto you and blame you for everything that has gone wrong.
- They’ll act superior to you
With that low self-esteem and gas-lighting will come the act of superiority. After all, they believe they can do no wrong. Your wife may truly believe that they are always right and that something that threatens their beliefs is wrong, even when that is not the case.
- You will deal with gas-lighting
Gas-lighting, which is when someone tries to get you to question your perception, memories or reality, is used to maintain control over you. They may say something negative to you and then say you’re making up the memory of them being abusive or hurtful. Gas-lighting is a major red flag in relationships, and it’s one that will be waving during a divorce with a narcissist. Be prepared to stick to your truth.
It may be difficult to divorce a narcissist because of their behaviors. They may drag out the divorce or even threaten you to get you to stay in the relationship. This isn’t something you have to go through alone. Remember that there are legal supports to help men divorcing their wives.